This is part two of our look at how we can apply 1 Corinthians 11:1 to our leadership of our families.
Amplified Bible (AMP)
11 Pattern yourselves after me [follow my example], as I imitate and follow Christ (the Messiah).
I think we could all work on this.
New International Version (NIV)25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
We are told to love our wives just as Christ loved the church. He loved the church so much that he gave himself up for it. He sacrificed his life for the church and expects us to do the same for our wives. I found this article that talks about this topic and I thought the following paragraph was really good.
“And let’s be clear about something else. Many of us, when considering the idea of giving our life for our spouse, think about jumping in front of a bullet for them. Or we envision some hypothetical situation where we sacrifice ourselves to save them. That’s good, but we often miss the much more common – and more difficult – way we are called to give our lives for them. It isn’t in some hypothetical situation that we find in action movies. It’s what we are faced with every single morning when we wake up. It’s the everyday, ordinary ways we serve them. It’s always having them at the center of your thoughts and intentions. It’s waking up in the morning and thinking about your wife before you think about yourself. Serving her in every little thing you do before serving yourself. It’s radical – just like the vows you made.”
You can find the complete article at http://www.fathersforgood.org/ffg/en/husband_wife/archive/christ_loved_the_church.html
I think we find the ultimate example of Christ’s love in this verse.
New International Version (NIV)42 “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.”
Jesus obviously didn’t really want to go to the cross, but he laid aside what he really wanted to do and did what was required of him.
It could mean that if your wife needs or desires something then we make sure that she gets whatever that is. Even if it means that we have to do without something that we need or desire.
If your wife needs time away then provide it for her. Even if it means letting her spend some time out with friends and you taking care of the kids.
If your wife needs help with the house, then do it. Sacrifice some time and whatever your idea of what a man’s job is and help her with the dishes, cleaning, laundry, or whatever needs to be done.
If your wife needs more of you then make some sacrifices. That could mean less time with our buddies, less time at the range, less time fishing or hunting, less time playing golf. I think this quote from Rick Warren really applies here.
“The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now.”
― Rick Warren
The list could go on and on.
I think we will find that if we start sacrificing our desires that we can fulfill the need and desires of our wives then it will be well worth the sacrifice. We will probably find that are willing to make some sacrifices for us as well.
So guys let’s step up for our wives and make the sacrifices that she needs.